Human relationships? They’re beautifully messy because we’re beautifully, infuriatingly, creatively, and messily chaotic. Like trying to untangle a Gordian knot – it’s hard to be quite sure where one thread ends and another begins. We’re all constantly changing, which means our connections with others have to flex and flow right along with us. To me, it’s not about understanding every little detail of a relationship – It’s about what a relationship means.
Meaningful relationships don’t just help you get through the day – they makes life worth living. I’m convinced that the richness and the quality of our lives comes down to the richness and quality of our relationships. There’s very often that gap between what a relationship is and what it could be and it is in this tension the therapeutic work takes place.
So what’s this website all about? Think of it as an invitation to hit pause, to reflect and to explore what your relationships – with others and with yourself – really mean. Welcome.
Latest posts:
- Embracing the Dance: Handling Polarities in Committed Relationships - In his book the Road Less Travelled, M. Scott argues that couples cannot resolve fundamental issues such as dependency vs independency, dominance, and submission in a healthy way without the security of knowing that the process of struggling over these issues will not destroy the relationship. Committed relationships are not static destinations but dynamic engagements that require constant calibration. At the heart of this complexity lies the idea that healthy partnerships don’t resolve tensions between opposing needs—they learn to hold them simultaneously. Understanding and managing these polarities, rather than trying to eliminate them, is essential for relationship longevity and satisfaction. […]
- Pressure valves – why some tension is inevitable in relationships - A relationship is a creative pursuit – creative because it demands that we look beyond who we are right now and dare to imagine what we might become together. It asks us to constantly recalibrate as we – and our partners – evolve, shift and grow. But here’s the paradox: a relationship is also about stability, consistency, commitment and reliability. Trust doesn’t build itself on wish alone. So a relationship needs to be elastic enough to accommodate new discoveries about the person we’ve chosen to share our life with, yet comprehensive enough to answer the question: why you and not […]
- Kissing Menu - What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a committed relationship? For some, intimacy is equated with sex, others speak of feeling emotionally close and connected. Be it physical or emotional, the one thing that most of us look for in intimate moments is to feel accepted, connected and that we matter to our partner. Enjoy.
- Friends - This post is about my belief that friendship in committed and romantic relationship is a sentiment that not only will enrich the partners in the relationship but also carry it well into the future. What is friendship? I often think of the meaning of a friend and what makes their friendship meaningful to me. I know that different friends inspire and evoke different feelings and experiences; some provide warmth and happiness, others provide intellectual stimulation, with some I feel at home and others remind me to stay grounded and what it means to be a friend. Sometimes friends offer a […]
- Intimacy Menu - What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a relationship? Some people describe intimacy as being close and connected, others speak about being able to share thoughts and a broad range of feelings and others describe intimacy as being vulnerable and feeling that they matter. This menu was designed to expand the experience of intimacy beyond sex in relationships.
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