The complexities of human relationships are hardly ever easy to explain; like a Gordian knot, we may never know where a relationship begins or ends. People change and grow and we are required to adjust and adapt – the meaning of a relationship may be more significant than the understanding of any of its parts.

A meaningful relationship can turn mere existence into a life worth living. I believe that the quality of our life depends on the quality of our relationships and as such, relationships are the best investment we can ever make. There is always tension between what a relationship is and what it could be and in this tension the therapeutic work takes place.

The purpose of this website is to try to offer a place to pause and think about the meaning of our relationships with others and with our own selves.

Latest posts:

• Pressure valves – why some tension is inevitable in relationships - A relationship is a creative pursuit. It is creative because to thrive, it requires us to see beyond who and how we are now and imagine what we can become together – it asks to constantly adjust to how we and our partners evolve, change and grow over time. A relationship is also the pursuit of stability, consistency, commitment and reliability on which trust is built. As such a relationship needs to be elastic enough to accommodate new discoveries about those we choose to share our life with and comprehensive enough to explain why I love you and not another. […]
• Kissing Menu - What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a committed relationship? For some, intimacy is equated with sex, others speak of feeling emotionally close and connected. Be it physical or emotional, the one thing that most of us look for in intimate moments is to feel accepted, connected and that we matter to our partner. Enjoy.
• Friends - This post is about my belief that friendship in committed and romantic relationship is a sentiment that not only will enrich the partners in the relationship but also carry it well into the future. What is friendship? I often think of the meaning of a friend and what makes their friendship meaningful to me. I know that different friends inspire and evoke different feelings and experiences; some provide warmth and happiness, others provide intellectual stimulation, with some I feel at home and others remind me to stay grounded and what it means to be a friend. Sometimes friends offer a […]
• Intimacy Menu - What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a relationship? Some people describe intimacy as being close and connected, others speak about being able to share thoughts and a broad range of feelings and others describe intimacy as being vulnerable and feeling that they matter. This menu was designed to expand the experience of intimacy beyond sex in relationships.  
• Slow Sex Tasting Menu - This menu was designed to encourage unhurried and mindful time together and to nurture curiosity and a sense of discovery.