Practica Psychotherapy
Practica Psychotherapy
There once was a fearsome dog that lived by the road that led to a village. The dog made the lives of the villagers miserable, if you happened to cross its path, you were sure to feel the strength of its teeth. There was no one coming or going, no trade and no playing, only fear. I am in control thought the dog to itself.
This went on for a while and the villagers grew tired and desperate.
And so one day they went to the head of the
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I love the thought of celebrating our teachers.We all learn, first by imitation and then by inspiration. We take tools that others have created before us and put them together in creative combinations that suit our new needs. And often we find it hard to admit that learn from others. Does it really matter where we get our inspiration from or who we have been imitating? To me what matters is that we can be inspired. Amongst the things we learn is the need to be original, but honestly, how many
While how we feel about our relationships is in our heads, it doesn’t mean that they started in our heads and that they need to end there. Sometimes a small change in how we behave in a relationship is all that is needed to change how we feel about a relationship.
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Despite describing a natural part of what it means to be human, these three words seem to trigger discomfort and shame. How did it happen that we have isolated these experiences and made them unwanted?
Competition. Being competitive has got a bad name, the underlying message is that competitive equals aggressive. But mixed messages are rife, just look around. You need to be bigger, thinner, younger, fitter, happier or just more of this and less of that.
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Emotional resilience is a good quality to have, most people would agree. Bouncing back means we can risk new behaviours accepting that if anything goes wrong, somehow we will know what to do.
After having written about the four resources that can help increase resilience, I started thinking about the things we do to decrease our resilience. Not that we do it on purpose, I doubt many people walk around thinking about how they
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In my previous post I suggested three resources to increase resilience. I am adding a fourth resource following numerous conversations about how bouncing back has different qualities to it, that is, it is not just about whether we bounce back from setbacks life throws at us or not, but also about how we do it and feeling we are left with. The ‘how’ is important because it offers a learning for the future. We can feel as
Resilience is often defined as the ability to bounce back from setbacks. Setbacks can be part of any activity we are involved in and if we can harness anxiety and stress constructively we can make better progress.
The problem starts already with the words setback and progress. I’ll start with progress, it suggests movement towards improvement or the advancement towards a better stage. If the starting point of whatever project is improvement rather than adjustment to a changing reality, we have already labelled our current activity as inadequate and we might be ignoring what we are doing well
…We are strongly attached to the idea that there is a true, single, core self which remains constant throughout life. In reality, we extrapolate a sense of constancy from our memories. We have many subselves which come to the fore depending on the situation we are in. Thus, we have a subself dedicated to friends, another to family, another dedicated to self-protection and yet another dedicated to status and professional success, as many subsleves as the number of settings that modern life requires us to be involved in. We may assume a new identity in each new role
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