Author: Gilead Yeffett

→Couples and individual psychotherapist, working in: 6a Bessborough Place, Pimlico, London SW1V 3SG Longcroft House, 2-8 Victoria Avenue, City, London EC2M 4NS

Pressure valves – why some tension is inevitable in relationships

A relationship is a creative pursuit. It is creative because to thrive, it requires us to see beyond who and how we are now and imagine what we can become together – it asks to constantly adjust to how we and our partners evolve, change and grow over time.

A relationship is also the pursuit of stability, consistency, commitment and reliability on which trust is built.

As such a relationship needs to be elastic enough to accommodate new discoveries about those we choose to share our life with and comprehensive enough to explain why I love you and not another.

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Kissing Menu

What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a committed relationship? For some, intimacy is equated with sex, others speak of feeling emotionally close and connected. Be it physical or emotional, the one thing that most of us look for in intimate moments is to feel accepted, connected and that we matter to our partner. Enjoy.

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Friends

This post is about my belief that friendship in committed and romantic relationship is a sentiment that not only will enrich the partners in the relationship but also carry it well into the future.

What is friendship? I often think of the meaning of a friend and what makes their friendship meaningful to me. I know that different friends inspire and evoke different feelings and experiences; some provide warmth and happiness, others provide intellectual stimulation, with some I feel at home and others remind me to stay grounded and what it means to be a friend. Sometimes friends offer a

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Intimacy Menu

What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a relationship? Some people describe intimacy as being close and connected, others speak about being able to share thoughts and a broad range of feelings and others describe intimacy as being vulnerable and feeling that they matter. This menu was designed to expand the experience of intimacy beyond sex in relationships.

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Slow Sex Tasting Menu

This menu was designed to encourage unhurried and mindful time together and to nurture curiosity and a sense of discovery.

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Wishes for 2023

I ended the previous post with the thought that your partner is and will be to some degree a mystery to you regardless of how long you have known them.

When faced with ambiguous and complex situations as relationships can be, we tend to do two things: we stereotype them and we try to predict what others will do next based on our experience of them, thus our prediction and their response create a repeating cycle or

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Water

You can never truly know another

We mostly believe that life events influence and change us; we tend to also believe that to varying degrees we are flexible and adaptable; we adjust, try to solve problems in ways that require new skills – we change our views and beliefs of what was important to us in the past and is important to us in the present.

We also only share with others some of our views, doubts, hopes and concerns and as such, we are only partly known to others.

The same applies to all of us.

Although, we assume that we think objectively about ourselves,

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Chistmas 2021 Sex Menu

This year’s menu focuses on light activities such as nibbles and cocktails to help bring back seduction, mystery, surprise and playfulness to your relationship.

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Erotic cocktails

As many couples report, the continuous lockdown has been eroding a sense of playfulness, surprise, intimacy and erotic fun. I have put together an aphrodisiac cocktail menu. Create your own cocktails from the list of ingredients and surprise each other. Have fun and drink responsibly.

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A fun tale about why we seek love – click to view clip

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Christmas Sex Menu

This menu was crafted with the aim of removing the focus from penetration – whilst paying attention to other areas in the body, especially the less familiar ones. Sides and dessert add a bit of fun and excitement to the overall experience. Bon appetit and a sexy festive season!

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