In his book the Road Less Travelled, M. Scott argues that couples cannot resolve fundamental issues such as dependency vs independency, dominance, and submission in a healthy way without the security of knowing that the process of struggling over these issues will not destroy the relationship.

Committed relationships are not static destinations but dynamic engagements that require constant calibration. At the heart of this complexity lies the idea that healthy partnerships don’t resolve tensions between opposing needs—they learn to hold them simultaneously. Understanding and managing these polarities, rather than trying