While often viewed as the immediate prelude to intercourse, effective foreplay is what happens outside the bedroom. The word foreplay itself can be misleading; it suggests that whatever comes next – the play – is the prized activity. It is seen as the appetiser before the main meal, something to rush through to get to the “real thing”. But if we can broaden its definition, we can transform our understanding of sexual intimacy entirely – what if we stopped treating foreplay as merely a means to an end and started recognising it as valuable and pleasurable in its own right?
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In his book the Road Less Travelled, M. Scott writes that couples cannot resolve fundamental issues such as dependency vs independency, dominance, and submission in a healthy way without the security of knowing that the process of struggling over these issues will not destroy the relationship.
Committed relationships are not static destinations but dynamic engagements that require constant calibration. At the heart of this complexity lies the idea that healthy partnerships don’t resolve tensions between opposing needs—they learn to hold them simultaneously. Understanding and managing these polarities, rather than trying
What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a committed relationship? For some, intimacy is equated with sex, others speak of feeling emotionally close and connected. Be it physical or emotional, the one thing that most of us look for in intimate moments is to feel accepted, connected and that we matter to our partner. Enjoy.
What do we mean when we speak about intimacy in a relationship? Some people describe intimacy as being close and connected, others speak about being able to share thoughts and a broad range of feelings and others describe intimacy as being vulnerable and feeling that they matter. This menu was designed to expand the experience of intimacy beyond sex in relationships.
… This menu was designed to encourage unhurried and mindful time together and to nurture curiosity and a sense of discovery.
I ended the previous post with the thought that your partner is and will be to some degree a mystery to you regardless of how long you have known them.
When faced with ambiguous and complex situations as relationships can be, we tend to do two things: we stereotype them and we try to predict what others will do next based on our experience of them, thus our prediction and their response create a repeating cycle or
…This year’s menu focuses on light activities such as nibbles and cocktails to help bring back seduction, mystery, surprise and playfulness to your relationship.
This menu was crafted with the aim of removing the focus from penetration – whilst paying attention to other areas in the body, especially the less familiar ones. Sides and dessert add a bit of fun and excitement to the overall experience. Bon appetit and a sexy festive season!
This menu was created to support couples who feel they need slow and easy aperitif and starter and some add some novelty to main course. Sides and dessert add a bit of fun and excitement to the overall experience. Bon appetit!
Here is a quote that made me think of the meaning of commitment and responsibility in relationships, regardless of status, married or not, same sex or heterosexual
“The job of the wife is to make a man of the boy she married; it is the job of the husband to make a woman of the girl he married”.
The way to do accomplish this is to behave as if they already are.
This takes me back to the words of Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:
“If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you
…The seduction survey (see separate tab above) is now open. The aim of the survey is to try to understand what are the factors, tendencies and behaviours that are conducive to an active sex life in modern long-term romantic relationships. The survey is anonymous and takes about five minutes. I hope that the questions themselves will be useful to you as they cover a broad array of tendencies. Click here to take the
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